I love the term “breakdown.” It ignites in me images of freedom—doors bursting open, walls coming down, old structures being dismantled and cleared. Yes, there is rubble in this process. But with the rubble comes space for something new. In an emotional breakdown, the rubble is composed of failed expectations, faulty assumptions and false conclusions. When falsehoods are indulged and left to grow in strength they begin to block our inner light. If we don’t see this process happening and make a course correction darkness rolls in. We are left disconnected from ourselves. This is the loneliest, darkest place to be. But like in a super hero movie, the life inside of us that is born to thrive gathers the strength to save us. The battle cry is “by any means necessary.” This may look like a breakdown. But what if a breakdown is really positioning us for a breakthrough? What if underneath the breakdown is the breakthrough – the course correction - our life needs?
Next time you’re in an emotional crisis, don’t focus on the pain. Get curious about the breakthrough behind it. Ask yourself what you need to see or do that you have been avoiding? Then take a deep breath and do it. Because, you are born to THRIVE!
Read The Little Book of BIG LIES for more tips on how to successfully deal with breakdown.
This Week’s Quote: Knowing freedom is possible encourages the next step, and the one after that.
Experience tells me that when it comes to your "stuff" – issues, unhappy childhood, painful insecurities, feeling less than good enough, et cetera, et cetera – some part of you actually doesn’t believe that you can change these things in your life.
You say you want to change. But, if you check inside yourself, do you honestly believe that your issue can, and will, change?
In my pre-inner fitness past, I often complained that my life was not as I desired it to be. Yet, when I honestly checked inside myself, to my surprise I discovered I had actually given up believing that change was possible! Instead, I had begun to believe that I would have to accommodate my issue(s) forever.
Everything changed for me when I read a study that helped me understand two things:
1) The brain is like plastic. It can always be rewired. Every issue you have or will ever have can be CHANGED for the better!
2) “Our issues” are not the cause of our pain. How we see and feel about ourselves – because of the issue – is what truly causes pain.
Say out loud to yourself, “No matter how long I’ve had this issue, it can change. This issue is connected to the inappropriate way my brain learned to see me and protect me. How my brain sees can change.”
Say this often, particularly when you find yourself feeling lost or upset because of your old issue. This is a great starting point for change.
Read The Little Book of BIG LIES for more tips on how to transform any issue.
At times, I close my eyes in meditation and — without trying — I see what looks and feels like a galaxy of stars. Literally!
I feel as though I am connected to the universe — seeing it and, at the same time, a part of it.
I’ve never ventured to ask others if this is their experience. I actually don’t care. This sight teaches me. Its message is this:
We are so much more than we know. There is so much more going on in this experience called life than we have yet to see, know and understand.
You are so much more than any negative thought, statement or experience that can cross your path. Unless you allow them to, the hurts, drama, trauma, upsets and disappointments that make you feel small — or not good enough — or broken — do not define you.
Begin to refer to these experiences more accurately: Fleeting moments that are merely trying to live longer through your hurt-filled reaction to them. Seeing these moments for what they are makes them less persistent or real. Compared to the unseen universe and power that is your true nature, no hurt has the power to topple you WHEN YOU KNOW THIS!
As a practical FREEDOM strategy, YEARN FOR FREEDOM. Make sure you desire freedom from whatever LIE has a hold of you.
Though the interactive nature of the universe has yet to be fully understood, it seems to respond to our thoughts and feelings. Your heartfelt desire to move beyond hurt, limiting thoughts and associated behavior will — mystically — lead you to people, places and experiences that will teach you and help you remember that you are MORE THAN ANY HURT OR CHALLENGE YOU HAVE EVER EXPERIENCED AND WILL EVER EXPERIENCE.
Trust this. Be patient. Yearn!
Learn more about how to take on challenges for a best version of you in my book The Little Book of BIG LIES.
Do you remember the moment when you fell away from your whole and confident Self and doubt moved in? We all have a memory that clearly marks the birth of the part of self that is harassed by doubt.
It is the nature of doubt to undermine our connection to our innate value/worth. Doubt’s shadowy character aims to snuff out our dreams and dim the bright light that the universe placed inside each of us at birth. Doubt has grown strong in you (in certain areas of your life) because, up until now, you have forgotten two important things:
From this point forward, remember this: In reality DOUBT is afraid of you. Our basic human nature is to THRIVE. Doubt knows that when you wake up and realize this its tactics will be powerless over you. Like a jealous, manipulative scared lover - doubt attempts to keep itself strong in you by making you feel small.
Your journey back to yourself is your doubt’s greatest fear. Take the journey.
Learn more about taking your power back from doubt in my book The Little Book of BIG LIES.