When hurtful experiences occur, of course they can – and maybe even should – make you angry...for a short period of time. But beware: fiercely held anger tends to become a grudge, hatred or even a desire for revenge.
These feelings are NOT evidence that you have been wronged or hurt, so much as they are evidence that you are hurting yourself with your BELIEF that things in your life should have occurred differently. But life did occur the way that it has for you. That cannot change.
In the face of that, your work is to THRIVE no matter the circumstances, or how they’re presented to you. The world is full of people holding on to hurt as proof that they have been violated or dealt an unfair hand. Unfortunately, the only things that remain for these people are a clenched fist and a difficult time truly knowing joy.
You don’t have to forget (though life would feel better if you did). You don’t have to forgive others (though life would be better if you did). But, you do have to forgive YOURSELF for thinking of yourself as breakable, and for giving people and circumstances the power to derail your life and turn you into an angry, suspicious, hard and unloving person. That is the real shame.
Don’t go there. Begin to interrupt your deep-seated anger by saying out loud, I am ready to move on and thrive!