Roses may smell sweet. But survival behavior, by any other name, still reeks of the tendency to blame, accuse, oppress or cast people and circumstances in the distrusted role of “other” or enemy and harshly judge or fear them.
The next time you point the finger, judge or need to control people and outcomes, stop. The subtle scent you smell is survival, disguised as unconscious, seemingly harmless whiffs of fresh air. Don’t be lulled. Ask yourself: What am I trying to hold on to? What am I afraid will happen?
Our ancestors ran from tigers. The tendency to run for survival has become so hardwired that today’s caveman is ready to take flight or fight for a thousand reasons – hurtful experiences and fear topping the list.
Seeing and acknowledging your twenty-first century survival tendencies gives you the ability to choose more calmly how you’ll respond. The more choice you exercise in this moment, the more inner fitness you will develop, and the more certain you are to create a life where you can thrive, not just survive.