The best part of belonging to a healthy community is having a place where you feel safe, seen and heard. Hanging out with people who “get you” and value you is better than ice cream…and at times, even better than sex.
There is one thing better than having a great community or best friend. It’s feeling safe, seen, heard and valued by yourself.
Cultivating a deep relationship with yourself means developing a ride or die friendship with yourself. This means enjoying your own company, acknowledging your value, and agreeing to be there for yourself even when you feel doubt or encounter failure. It means listening to your inner self. This includes, if need be, spending time with a counselor or therapist in order to truly understand and better honor the needs of your inner self.
Spending time with yourself as your own best friend takes effort. It takes being honest with yourself and believing you are worth your own attention. It takes accepting the parts of yourself that you tend to reject or minimize, and practicing healthy self-forgiveness – where you lovingly hold yourself accountable for your actions in the areas that need work.
We Westerners are consumers. We buy things, mostly thinking that those things will make us happy. However, the sparkle dulls and new things become old fast. Building a sound relationship with the self is a renewable journey that never gets old.
There is endless personal power, resilience and joy to be found in a relationship with yourself where you feel safe, seen and heard. This takes effort, time and intention. Get started today, because life is easier when you know who you are!
The Little Book of BIG LIES is a great guide for developing a ride or die, best friend relationship with yourself.