What you’re looking at you’re looking with is one of my favorite sayings, and an uncompromising adage. It means the behavior YOU SEE, YOU DO - or at the very least, you’ve behaved that way at some point in your past - and most likely still do. In short, you can’t see what you do not already KNOW!
This means that when you’re upset at “so and so” for doing “such and such,” at some point you did such and such YOURSELF. What you’re looking at you’re looking with turns us all into hypocrites of a sort.
Mothers chastising – or even shaming – daughters for their behavior regarding some boy, at some point, probably once behaved just as their daughters are behaving; spiritual types who judge others for being judgmental, duh; and even those who harshly judge bullies of all kinds have bullied others at some point.
We human beings have a quirky flaw: We are disgusted by what we can’t admit to ourselves about ourselves.
The point here is to show one another compassion. When you see your old behavior in someone else, own it. Understand it. Turn your arrogance and judgments into opportunities for self-love, and forgive yourself for any ways in which you have violated the humanity of others.